Posts in Reflection
The Secret to Staying Stuck

Let’s be honest, we all have to suck it up more than we would like. It’s the nature of living in an imperfect world with other imperfect people. From the daily slights, unresponsive co-workers to annoying meetings, we are all sucking it up on a daily basis.

But that’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about the big things that feel like a heavy blanket that smothers the best parts of ourselves. I see it in my clients when they talk about “sticking it out for another 2 years” or who resign themselves to “keeping their head down” in a toxic system. I think a younger, more impulsive me would have wanted to shake them while quoting Mary Oliver’s The Summer Day. “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” 

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Is it Time to Move on?

Fall always feels bittersweet to me.   

I love the stillness of the air, the waning warmth of the sun and the vividness of the trees just before they shed their leaves for the season.  

 I also feel a slight sadness.  Without being fully conscious of it, I notice that this time of year makes me want to shed a few things of my own.  Some of what I’m letting go of is small and insignificant.  It’s the equivalent of cleaning out my closet.   

But other things are more daunting to release - work that had once made me happy but no longer does; relationships that haven’t worked in a long time; and dreams that I have outgrown.   

 Here’s the thing though, endings are hard. They are full of ‘what-ifs’, ambiguity and sadness.  Letting go also takes time.  We can’t expect ourselves to have an intellectual knowing and then move straight into action.   

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